Oldish Psych and Prog

It's an interesting subejct here you challenge the Crabby Appleton, and you honor the OhMYGawd woman (you did make me smile-okay laugh out loud). I would have done the same, but recently I read a post by Dan Mulhern about this kind of judgement issue and it gave me good food for thought, he writes: I believe I need these frustrations. To put this differently, these problems are here to give me a chance to learn and to be shaped into a different kind of leader-person. In other words, my irritations and protestations about all the things that aren't going the way I want reflect a huge childish (or childlike if you prefer) wish that everything be as I would have it be. But isn't that a kind of crazy self-aggrandizement? A bit like if a bee expressed irritation at every flower that failed to meet the standard of the verb best nectar producing flower he'd encountered in his whole bee career. In the view I am allowing to sink in deeply: the traffic jam, adolescent rebellion, crazy boss, challenging spouse, competitive co-worker are gifts disguised.As leader, teacher, or dad, each setback or frustration gives me a chance to lead the one person I can best lead: me. And in each such instance, there's a chance that I can see clearly not through the wishful lens where I hope to see just what I want to see; but to see who is really there, what is really there, and how I might meet the other(s) where they are. Let me know your thoughts: Is this simple? Crazy? Obvious, or potentially very useful? As you strive both with others and with yourself toLead with your best self, Dan (Mulhern)

Thx for sharing this!